Could a Postnuptial Agreement save your marriage?

Most people have heard of a prenuptial agreement, but fewer know about a postnuptial agreement.

A postnuptial agreement (or “postnup”) is an agreement made after you’ve got married or entered into a civil partnership. It records what you and your partner agree should happen to your finances, property and other assets if your relationship were to end in the future.

No one gets married expecting to separate. But life changes. Relationships change. Financial circumstances change too.

For some couples, putting a postnuptial agreement in place isn’t about planning for divorce. It’s about creating certainty and taking away one of the biggest sources of stress in a relationship – money.

Why would a couple have a postnuptial agreement?

There are lots of reasons.

Perhaps one of you has received an inheritance, started a business or want to protect children from a previous relationship, who have now made their way to adulthood.

Sometimes it’s simply because your financial circumstances are very different from when you got married.

And sometimes it’s because your marriage has hit a difficult patch.

Statistics show that women aged between 40 and 44, and men aged between 45 and 49, have the highest rates of divorce. For opposite-sex couples, marriages ending in divorce have lasted, on average, just under 13 years.

Whilst statistics don’t tell the story of every relationship, they do remind us that many couples reach a point where they start asking difficult questions about their future together.

Taking money out of the equation

When a relationship is under pressure, worries about money can make everything feel even harder.

Clients will ask questions like:

  • What would happen to the house?
  • Would I be financially secure?
  • What happens to the business?
  • What if we’ve both put money into different things over the years?
  • How would the children be provided for?

These are completely natural concerns.

The problem is that worrying about the financial consequences can sometimes stop people from thinking clearly about what they actually want.

A postnuptial agreement can help change that.

By agreeing financial arrangements in advance or at the start of relationship difficulties, both people know where they stand. It provides clarity and removes uncertainty.

Once that uncertainty has gone, couples are often able to focus on what really matters – their relationship.

Removing Money from the Equation

I recently worked with a couple in mediation after one of them had been unfaithful.  This infidelity had caused them to question their relationship. They still loved each other, but there was a great deal of hurt, and they had started couples counselling to see whether the relationship could be repaired.  One thing they both agreed on was this:

They didn’t want money to influence their decision.

If they stayed together, they wanted it to be because they had rebuilt trust.

If they separated, they wanted it to be because the relationship could not be repaired.

Neither of them wanted financial worries to become the reason they stayed in an unhappy marriage or left one that could still be saved.

Together, we agreed the terms of a postnuptial agreement that gave them both financial certainty.

Once they knew where they stood financially, they were able to put their energy into counselling and working on their relationship, knowing that whatever decision they eventually made would be based on their feelings for each other—not on fear about money.

I’ve always thought that was one of the most positive uses of a postnuptial agreement.

 

Don’t wait until you’ve made a decision

Many people think they should only speak to a family lawyer once they’ve decided to separate.

In reality, getting advice earlier can be incredibly helpful, or as the couple above, sitting together in a mediation setting and working through the terms of the agreement, together provides a unified approach, which is often crucial at this juncture of their relationship.

Knowing your options, understanding your rights and getting clear advice often helps people feel more in control at a time when life can feel anything but.

How We Can Help

At Rachel Jaysan Family Law & Mediation, we know that every family is different.

Whether you’re looking to protect your future, your circumstances have changed since you got married, or you’re trying to decide what’s next for your relationship, we’re here to help you understand your options.

A postnuptial agreement isn’t about expecting your marriage to fail.

For many couples, it’s about removing uncertainty so that money doesn’t become the deciding factor.

Sometimes, knowing where you stand financially gives you the space to focus on what really matters—whether you can rebuild your relationship, or whether it’s time to move forward separately.

Whatever the future holds, we’re here to help you make informed decisions with clarity and confidence.

Please contact Rachel Jaysan at rachel@racheljaysan.co.uk

Can We Use the Same Divorce Lawyer? Here’s What Every Couple Should Know

When people think about divorce, they often imagine lengthy legal battles, endless paperwork and expensive solicitor’s fees. But this does not have to be every couple’s experience.

Many people simply want to separate with as little conflict as possible. They want to make sensible decisions, protect their children, keep costs under control and move on with their lives.
One of the questions we are asked most often is:

“Can the same lawyer help us both?”

The answer is yes – in the right circumstances.

Our One Couple. One Lawyer service is designed for couples who want to work together to reach an agreement rather than against each other. Instead of each instructing separate solicitors from the outset, you meet together with one experienced family lawyer who helps you understand your options, have constructive conversations and reach decisions that work for both of you.

It isn’t about taking sides. It’s about helping both of you move forward with the benefit of clear and transparent legal advice.

Divorce Doesn’t Have to Mean Conflict
Relationships end for all sorts of reasons. Many couples have simply grown apart. Others know that while the marriage has come to an end, they will always remain parents, or continue to see one another at family occasions for years to come.

If that sounds familiar, choosing a more collaborative approach can make a real difference.
Working together from the beginning often helps couples stay focused on finding solutions rather than revisiting old arguments.

How Does One Couple One Lawyer Work?
The process is surprisingly straightforward.
You both attend meetings together with the same solicitor. During those meetings, you discuss the issues that need to be resolved, such as your finances, your home and arrangements for your children.
Your lawyer explains the legal position in plain English, answers questions from both of you and helps you explore different options.

The aim is to give you the information and guidance you need to make informed decisions together.
Many couples tell us they appreciate having one trusted professional guiding the conversation, rather than feeling as though they are sitting on opposite sides of a negotiation.

What About Confidentiality?
People are often curious about how confidentiality works when there is only one lawyer.
The answer is simple: everything is discussed openly.

There are no private conversations with one spouse that are kept secret from the other. Everyone works with the same information throughout the process, helping to build trust and avoid misunderstandings.
This openness is one of the reasons why the process works so well for couples who are committed to finding fair solutions together.

What If We Don’t Agree on Everything?
It’s perfectly normal not to agree on every issue immediately.
One Couple One Lawyer isn’t about expecting couples to see eye to eye from day one. It’s about creating a safe and constructive environment where those differences can be discussed calmly.

However, there are occasions when it becomes clear that one lawyer can no longer assist both people. If your interests become too far apart or either of you needs independent legal advice, your solicitor will explain this clearly and help you understand the next steps.

Your lawyer’s role is always to remain impartial and ensure the process is fair for everyone involved.
Keeping Children at the Centre

For parents, divorce is rarely just about ending a marriage. It’s about creating two happy homes.
When parents can communicate respectfully during the divorce process, it often lays the foundations for positive co-parenting long after the legal process has finished.

Children don’t need perfect parents—they need parents who can work together when important decisions need to be made.

Saving Money Without Cutting Corners
One of the biggest benefits of using one lawyer is that it can significantly reduce legal costs.
When two separate solicitors are writing letters back and forth, negotiating every point and arranging separate meetings, costs can quickly add up.

By working together from the outset, much of that duplication is avoided and a much more streamlined approach is engaged.

More importantly, couples often reach agreements more quickly because everyone is working towards the same goal—finding practical solutions rather than winning an argument.


A Real-Life Example

James and Sarah (not their real names) had been married for fourteen years and had two children.
Although they had decided to separate, they both wanted to keep things as calm as possible. Their biggest concern wasn’t “winning” the divorce—it was making sure the children felt secure and that they remained good parents together.
Through the One Couple One Lawyer process, they met jointly to discuss their finances, their home and how the children would divide their time between them.

There were some difficult conversations, particularly about pensions and future housing, but having one solicitor explain the legal position helped remove much of the uncertainty.
Because they were working together instead of through opposing solicitors, they reached an agreement more quickly than they expected.

Several months later, they told us something that stayed with us:
“The divorce wasn’t easy, but it didn’t become a battle. We were able to stay focused on our children and move forward with respect.”

Every family is different, but stories like this show that divorce doesn’t always have to become a courtroom conflict.
Is This Approach Right for Everyone?
Not always.

The One Couple One Lawyer service works best where both people are willing to be honest, open and respectful throughout the process.

It will not be suitable if there has been domestic abuse, coercive or controlling behaviour, financial abuse or if one person simply isn’t prepared to negotiate.

When it is appropriate, however, many couples find it to be a calmer, more constructive and more affordable way to resolve the practical issues arising from their separation.

Looking Ahead
Ending a marriage is one of life’s biggest changes, but it doesn’t have to define the future.
Choosing a process that encourages communication, fairness and practical problem-solving can make the journey easier for everyone involved—especially children.

If you and your spouse are looking for a respectful way to navigate your divorce, our One Couple One Lawyer service could provide the guidance and reassurance you need to move forward with confidence.

Sometimes the best outcome isn’t about winning. It’s about finding a way through that allows everyone to start the next chapter on the strongest possible footing.

Please read through our factsheet and book a no obligation exploratory chat to discuss this option in more detail.

A Fairer End to Relationships: The Biggest Family Law Reforms in Decades?

The Government has launched a major consultation proposing some of the most significant changes to family law in England and Wales for over 50 years. If implemented, the reforms would reshape how finances are dealt with on divorce, introduce new rights for many cohabiting couples, and strengthen inheritance protections for unmarried partners.

For family lawyers and separating couples alike, these proposals could mark a fundamental shift in the legal landscape.

Why Reform Is Being Considered

Family life has changed dramatically over the last few decades, but the law has not always kept pace.

Today, more than 3.5 million couples in England and Wales live together without being married or in a civil partnership—more than double the number three decades ago. Yet many people remain unaware that cohabiting couples do not enjoy the same legal protections as married couples when relationships break down. The Government believes this gap can leave many families financially vulnerable, particularly women, children and victims of domestic or economic abuse.

At the same time, the law governing financial claims on divorce is largely based on legislation dating back to 1973, with many key principles having developed through case law rather than clear statutory rules.

The consultation therefore seeks to create a system that is clearer, fairer and easier for families to understand.

Current Law on Divorce

The law governing financial settlements on divorce in England and Wales is largely based on the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973. While the legislation provides a framework, much of the law has been developed through decades of court decisions. This means judges have a wide discretion when deciding how assets, income, pensions and property should be divided between separating spouses.

The court’s first consideration is the welfare of any children under the age of 18. It must then consider a range of factors including the parties’ income, earning capacity, financial needs, standard of living during the marriage, ages, health, contributions and conduct in exceptional cases.

While this flexibility allows the court to achieve fairness in individual cases, it can also create uncertainty. Many divorcing couples find it difficult to predict what a court might decide, which can increase legal costs and make settlement negotiations more challenging.

Proposals for Reform on Divorce

The Government’s consultation proposes placing key principles developed by the courts into legislation, creating a clearer and more predictable framework for financial settlements.

The law would distinguish more clearly between “matrimonial property”, acquired during the marriage, and “non-matrimonial property”, such as assets owned before the marriage or received by inheritance or gift.

One of the central proposals is that matrimonial assets should generally be shared equally between spouses, and if there are insufficient resources to share then a departure may be required to meet the parties needs, which would be assessed in a three stage test:

Stage 1: Children’s needs come first

Reflecting current law, the court should consider the welfare of a child of the family and

consider their needs first.

Stage 2: Consider divorcing couples’ capital and income needs, including their

housing and pension needs

After considering the needs of any child of the family, the parties housing, income and pension needs, as far as resources allow. These needs may be linked to a child’s needs.

Stage 3: Consider discretionary needs

After completing Stage 2, where resources permit, the court would consider discretionary

needs. We consider these needs to be lifestyle ‘luxuries’. For example, luxury items could

include expensive cars or designer items including clothing or accessories. Stage 2 and 3 would need to be clearly distinguished.

The aim is to create greater certainty for separating couples, reduce disputes and encourage earlier settlement. The government’s view is that the needs of the parties should be met in such a way as to enable transition to independence for both parties, as far as resources allow.

Current Law on Nuptial Agreements

Pre-nuptial and post-nuptial agreements have become increasingly common, particularly where one or both parties bring significant assets into a marriage. However, unlike in some other countries, such agreements are not automatically binding in England and Wales.

Since the Supreme Court decision in Radmacher v Granatino, the courts will generally uphold a nuptial agreement where both parties entered into it freely, understood its implications and the outcome is fair. However, the court retains the ultimate power to depart from the agreement if necessary, particularly where it would leave one party or any children in financial hardship.

As a result, while nuptial agreements carry significant weight, they cannot currently guarantee a particular outcome.

Proposals for Qualifying Nuptial Agreements

The consultation proposes the introduction of legally binding “Qualifying Nuptial Agreements”. These agreements would allow couples greater autonomy to decide how their assets should be dealt with if their relationship ends.

To qualify, agreements would need to satisfy a number of safeguards designed to ensure fairness and informed decision-making. The safeguards proposed are as follows:-

  • Contract Validity: the agreement must be a valid contract without, for example,

undue influence or misrepresentation.

  • Execution as Deed: the agreement must have been made by deed and must

contain a statement signed by both parties that they understand the agreement is a

qualifying nuptial agreement that will partially remove the court’s discretion to make

financial orders.

  • 28-Day Period: the agreement must not have been made within the 28 days

immediately before the wedding or the celebration of civil partnership.

  • Material Financial Disclosure: each party to the agreement must have received, at

the time of making of it, disclosure of material information about the other party’s

financial situation.

  • Independent Legal Advice: independent legal advice for each party signing the

nuptial agreement, to ensure each understands the legal effect and consequences of

the agreement.

  • It should not be possible for a party to waive their rights to disclosure and legal advice.
  • Any variation of an agreement must meet the requirements listed above.

While parties would be able to contract out of the sharing principle, they would not be able to contract out of meeting each other’s basic financial needs or the needs of any children.

If implemented, these reforms could provide greater certainty for couples, reduce litigation and align England and Wales more closely with jurisdictions where nuptial agreements are already fully enforceable.

Current Law on Cohabitation

A common misconception is that couples who live together acquire the status of “common law husband” or “common law wife”. In reality, no such legal status exists.

Unlike married couples, cohabitants cannot make financial claims against one another simply because their relationship has ended. Property disputes are usually determined by complex trust and property law principles, often leading to uncertainty and costly litigation. Many financially vulnerable partners can be left without adequate protection despite years of contribution to the relationship or family life.  Parents can make claims against another parent as the carer of a child but their rights are attached to those of the child and are therefore time limited.

Proposals for Reform

The Government is consulting on introducing a new legal framework for certain cohabiting couples.

The proposed scheme would apply to couples who can demonstrate that they are in a romantic, committed, long term interdependent relationship.  The proposals consider this to be couples who have lived together for at least three years, or who have a child together, unless they actively choose to opt out. The proposals stop short of giving cohabitants the same rights as married couples. Instead, they focus on addressing financial hardship and unmet needs arising from the relationship.  The proposals also suggest a two year time limit for making a financial claim on the other party following a relationship breakdown.

The needs of the party would be the court’s guiding principle and this will prioritise fair outcomes for children. Potential remedies could include lump sum payments, property adjustment orders and, in limited circumstances, financial support. The proposed framework seeks to balance personal autonomy with protection for vulnerable partners and children.

While the government proposes cohabitants have access to the same remedies as

divorcing couples, this does not mean there would be equivalent financial outcomes to

divorce. The court would not apply the sharing principle.

Cohabitants can also agree to opt out of these rights.  By making the scheme opt out rather than opt in, it would protect the financially weaker party.

The consultation also includes proposals to strengthen inheritance rights for cohabiting partners where one partner dies without leaving a valid will.

How the Law Currently Considers Domestic Abuse

Domestic abuse can already be relevant in financial remedy proceedings, but only in limited circumstances. Historically, the courts have been reluctant to take conduct into account unless it would be inequitable to disregard it.

As a result, even serious abusive behaviour may have little impact on the financial outcome of a divorce unless it has caused a clear and significant financial consequence. While courts increasingly recognise coercive and controlling behaviour, many victims feel that the current law does not adequately reflect the economic impact of abuse.

Economic abuse, which may include controlling access to money, preventing a partner from working, accumulating debt in their name or restricting financial independence, is now recognised within the Domestic Abuse Act 2021. However, its role within financial remedy proceedings remains limited.

Proposals for Domestic Abuse

The consultation seeks views on whether domestic abuse should play a greater role in financial settlements following divorce or dissolution.

In particular, the Government is considering how courts should take account of coercive control, economic abuse and other forms of domestic abuse when assessing financial outcomes. The consultation recognises that abuse can have long-lasting effects on a victim’s earning capacity, financial security and ability to rebuild their life after separation.

The proposals do not yet set out a definitive new framework but acknowledge growing concerns that the existing law may not adequately address the financial consequences of abuse. Any reforms could represent a significant shift in how the family courts approach fairness in financial remedy cases.

Need advice about divorce, financial settlements or cohabitation disputes?

At Rachel Jaysan Family Law, we help clients navigate complex family law issues with clear, practical and strategic advice. If you would like to discuss your circumstances, please get in touch for a confidential consultation.

Key statistics and proposals in this article are drawn from the Ministry of Justice consultation A Fairer End to Relationships: A Consultation on Reforming Financial Remedies on Divorce and Strengthening Protections for Cohabitants at the End of their Relationship (June 2026). 

Government extends Family mediation voucher scheme: £500 non means assessed contribution towards the cost of mediation

Separating from a partner is never easy. Alongside the emotional strain, many families face uncertainty around childcare arrangements, finances, and the stress of navigating the family court system. However, new government measures announced by the Ministry of Justice aim to make the process quicker, less confrontational, and significantly more affordable for separating couples across England and Wales.

According to recent Government announcements, the Family Mediation Voucher Scheme will continue for another year, helping thousands more families access mediation support without the high costs often associated with court proceedings.

What Is the Family Mediation Voucher Scheme?

The Family Mediation Voucher Scheme offers separating families up to £500 towards mediation costs. This contribution is not means assessed. The funding is designed to help couples resolve disputes involving children and finances outside of court.

Since launching in 2021, the scheme has already supported more than 54,000 parents and families. Government data suggests that many families who use mediation are able to reach agreements without needing lengthy court proceedings.
Mediation provides a structured, impartial environment where both parties can discuss issues calmly with the help of a professionally trained mediator. This often leads to faster resolutions, reduced conflict, and better long-term outcomes for children.

Why Mediation Matters
Family court disputes can be emotionally draining, time-consuming, and expensive. Traditional court proceedings can take many months to resolve, particularly when disputes involve child arrangements or financial matters.
The Government has acknowledged that prolonged parental conflict can have a serious impact on children’s wellbeing, including increased anxiety, stress, and emotional difficulties.
• Mediation offers several important benefits:
• Reduced stress and conflict
• Lower legal costs
• Faster resolutions
• Greater control over outcomes
• Improved communication between parents
• A more child-focused approach

Importantly, mediation encourages parents to work together to create practical arrangements that suit their family’s individual circumstances.

New Digital Tools for Separating Families
Alongside the extension of the voucher scheme, the Government has also introduced new online tools designed to help parents find the right support more quickly.

How Rachel Jaysan Can Help
At Rachel Jaysan, we understand how overwhelming separation can feel. Our aim is to provide a calm, supportive, and professional environment where families can work towards practical and constructive solutions.
Family mediation can help with:
• Child arrangements
• Parenting plans
• Financial discussions
• Communication between separating parents
• Reducing conflict
• Avoiding unnecessary court proceedings
Where eligible, families may also benefit from the Government’s mediation voucher scheme to help reduce costs further.

Final Thoughts
The Government’s continued investment in family mediation reflects a growing recognition that court should not always be the first option for separating families. With financial support, improved online resources, and greater awareness of mediation services, more parents now have access to faster, more affordable, and less stressful ways to resolve disputes.

For families facing separation, seeking early support and guidance can make a significant difference — both financially and emotionally — while helping children remain at the centre of decisions moving forward.
Click here for more information about family our mediation services

Prenups for Couples: One Lawyer, Clear Choices, Peace of Mind

January is often seen as the busiest month for family lawyers, as time spent together over the holidays leads some couples to conclude their marriage has run its course. Yet Christmas and New Year are just as often a time of romance, with many couples choosing this moment to commit to marriage.

There has been a clear cultural shift over recent decades with couple marrying in their 30’s being the most common age to wed.  At this age it is now much more likely that both parties will have built up wealth prior to marriage.  As such, nuptial agreements are no longer the preserve of celebrities or the very wealthy. Increasingly, couples across England and Wales are choosing to make clear, proactive decisions about their financial futures, before or after marriage, through professionally drafted nuptial agreements. At the same time, innovative processes like One Couple. One Lawyer are transforming how those agreements are negotiated — making them sensible, respectful, and collaborative rather than adversarial.

What is a Nuptial Agreement in English Law?

nuptial agreement (whether entered into before marriage — a “pre-nup” — or during marriage — a “post-nup”) is a written contract that sets out how a couple intends their financial assets and responsibilities to be dealt with if the relationship later breaks down.

Under English law:

  • Nuptial agreements are not automatically legally binding in the same way as other contracts.
  • But since the Supreme Court’s landmark Radmacher v Granatino decision, courts will give effect to a nuptial agreement when certain conditions are met — voluntarily entered into, with full disclosure and fair terms — unless it would be unfair to uphold it at the time of divorce.

The practical outcome is that a well-negotiated and properly documented agreement will carry significant weight in court and often becomes the framework the court adopts when approving a financial settlement on divorce.

Why Couples Choose Nuptial Agreements

People enter into nuptial agreements for many reasons, including:

  • Protecting assets brought into the marriage (e.g., family property, business interests).
  • Ensuring inheritance provision for children from prior relationships.
  • Clarifying rights and responsibilities early, helping minimises emotional and financial stress if the relationship later ends.
  • Encouraging candid financial discussions, which can strengthen mutual understanding and trust.

Key Legal Safeguards that Make Them Work

For a nuptial agreement to carry weight in court, it should satisfy core safeguards:

  1. Free and informed consent: Both parties enter into the agreement voluntarily, with time to consider the terms.
  2. Full financial disclosure: Each person must know the full picture — assets, liabilities and future prospects.
  3. Fairness and reasonableness: The agreement must not leave one party unable to meet their reasonable needs.
  4. Independent advice: Both parties should have the opportunity to take independent legal advice (even where a joint process is used).

The Problem with Traditional Positional Negotiation

Under the traditional model, each person instructs their own solicitor from the outset. Even where a couple is broadly aligned, the structure itself creates separation:

  • advice is given individually and privately;
  • proposals are exchanged through letters or emails;
  • language can become defensive and strategic;
  • costs increase with every round of correspondence.

This approach can be appropriate where there is mistrust, imbalance or conflict. Although the pertinent question in these scenarios is whether marriage is an appropriate step.  But for couples who are fundamentally seeking agreement, it often creates friction where none previously existed.

Positional negotiations can:

  • harden attitudes unnecessarily;
  • delay agreement;
  • inflate legal costs disproportionately to complexity; and
  • undermine the collaborative intent behind the agreement.

What One Couple. One Lawyer Does Differently

One Couple. One Lawyer starts from a different premise:
that many couples want clarity, not confrontation.

Traditionally, each person instructs their own solicitor to negotiate a nuptial agreement. One Couple. One Lawyer takes a different approach: one accredited family lawyer works with both partners together to guide the process — explaining the law, facilitating discussions, and drafting terms that reflect both parties’ intentions.

This model works when:

  • both partners are willing to engage openly and respectfully;
  • there is a commitment to full financial disclosure together; and
  • neither party is under coercion or significant imbalance of power.

Why This Works Especially Well for Nuptial Agreements

Nuptial agreements are not about winning or losing. They are about:

  • managing risk;
  • protecting pre-existing assets or family wealth;
  • planning for future change; and
  • avoiding uncertainty if a relationship later ends.

One Couple. One Lawyer is particularly well suited to this because it:

  • keeps discussions forward-looking rather than retrospective;
  • allows both partners to hear the same advice at the same time;
  • reduces misunderstandings about what the law does — and does not — allow;
  • encourages practical, proportionate decision-making.

Importantly, it also creates a clear evidential trail that the agreement was entered into knowingly, voluntarily and with proper understanding — all factors that increase the likelihood of it being upheld.

But What About Separate Legal Advice?

Separate advice remains essential.  The key difference is when and how that advice is taken.

Under One Couple. One Lawyer:

  • joint work is done first, efficiently and transparently;
  • the structure and rationale of the agreement are clear;
  • The agreement is drafted together to ensure the terms work for both parties equally.

Instead of two lawyers negotiating from scratch, each adviser is reviewing a near-final document/ set of proposals and advising on its implications.

This dramatically reduces:

  • duplication of work;
  • unnecessary correspondence; and
  • the scope for positional escalation.

Why This Is Still Much Cheaper Overall

Clients are often surprised to learn that even with separate advice, One Couple. One Lawyer usually costs significantly less than the traditional method.

That is because:

  • there is only one lawyer doing the core drafting and legal analysis;
  • meetings are joint rather than duplicated;
  • negotiations happen in real time, not by letter;
  • disputes are addressed early, not allowed to fester.

Traditional positional negotiation often generates cost through process rather than substance. One Couple. One Lawyer strips that away.

The result is not “cheap law” — it is proportionate law.

The Bottom Line

A well-drafted nuptial agreement is one that is:

  • understood by both parties;
  • entered into freely;
  • fair in outcome; and
  • proportionate in cost.

For the right couples, One Couple. One Lawyer delivers exactly that — with the option of separate advice where needed, and without the financial and emotional drain of traditional positional methods.

Please contact Rachel Jaysan at rachel@rachel.jaysan.co.uk or 020 8958 2073 or book an initial exploratory chat using the following link to discuss your options

www.racheljaysan.co.uk

Living Apart Together: Why More Couples Are Choosing Their Own Space

There’s a growing trend in modern relationships that might surprise you—or might sound wonderfully sensible: Living Apart Together, or LAT for short. It’s exactly what it sounds like. Couples who are very much committed, very much in love… but choose to live in separate homes.

And no, it doesn’t mean they’re “less serious.” In fact, for many people it’s the perfect way to keep a relationship happy, balanced, and drama-free.

So why are more couples choosing LAT?

  1. When kids are already in the picture

Many people find love again later in life. And by then, the children involved—sometimes teenagers, sometimes adults—have their own routines, needs, and spaces. Moving everyone under one roof can feel overwhelming or even destabilising.

LAT lets couples build a strong relationship without asking their children to suddenly blend homes or share space with new step-siblings. Everyone gets to keep the stability they’re used to.

  1. You’ve got your home, they’ve got theirs

By the time people reach a certain age, they’ve often created a home they truly love—and may have worked very hard to buy. Giving that up isn’t always appealing, and it doesn’t have to be.

Living apart means you don’t have to choose whose place to keep, or feel pressured to sell or move. You get to maintain your independence and the home that suits your lifestyle, while still having the relationship you want.

  1. No arguments about bins, dishes, or towels on the floor

Let’s be honest: most relationship tension isn’t about big philosophical differences. It’s about the dishes. Or laundry. Or who forgot to empty the bins again.

When each person has their own space, those tiny irritations don’t pile up. Instead, you get to enjoy the best parts of being together, without letting everyday chores drain the magic out of the relationship.

Many LAT couples say their time together feels intentional, romantic, and fresh—because it’s not overshadowed by the mundane side of cohabiting.

  1. No shared children, no pressure to share a home

Sometimes partners already know they won’t be having children together. Without the practical need to create a shared family home, there’s a lot more freedom to design a relationship that works for both people.

For many, LAT is simply the most comfortable and natural fit.

  1. Long-distance relationships—without the ultimatum

It’s increasingly common for couples to live in different cities or even different countries. Careers, family commitments, and lifestyles don’t always line up neatly.

LAT allows couples to stay committed without forcing a dramatic move that might not make sense for either person. With modern communication and easier travel, long-distance love is much more doable than it once was.

The practical (but important) bit: finances and agreements

Even when couples aren’t moving in together, it’s still smart to talk about the financial side of things. Especially when each partner already owns property or has children from previous relationships.

Many LAT couples look into:

These documents help clarify things like who owns what, how finances work, and what happens if the relationship changes. It’s not unromantic—it’s simply giving both people peace of mind so they can focus on enjoying the relationship rather than worrying about the “what ifs.”

The bottom line

Living Apart Together isn’t about distance—it’s about designing a relationship that fits your life. For many couples, it’s the perfect blend of intimacy and independence. You get the companionship, the romance, and the emotional closeness, while still maintaining your own space, routines, and stability.

For more and more people, LAT isn’t a compromise—it’s a solution.

We can help you ensure that you have the right legal protection in place to provide clarity with regards your finances.

The Benefits of Using an Accredited Family Mediator

The Benefits of Using an Accredited Family Mediator

Navigating family disputes can be emotionally draining. Engaging an accredited family mediator offers an effective alternative to prolonged legal battles, promoting constructive communication and an amicable resolution.

Expertise and Professional Standards

Accredited family mediators undergo rigorous training and assessment to meet high standards of practice. Among the 682 accredited mediators registered with recognised bodies, in the UK, all are required to adhere to strict codes of conduct, ensuring professionalism and competence.

Higher Success Rates

Statistics indicate that accredited mediators achieve higher success rates in resolving disputes. A recent review showed that agreements are reached in over 80% of cases handled by accredited mediators, This success is attributed to their advanced skills in facilitating effective communication and negotiation.

Consistency and Accountability

Accredited mediators are subject to regular continuing professional development (CPD) and supervision, maintaining up-to-date knowledge of legal frameworks and mediation techniques. Non-accredited mediators may not have similar obligations, leading to inconsistent practices. The oversight ensures accredited mediators remain accountable, offering reassurance to families seeking reliable support.

Child-Centred Focus

Accredited mediators are trained to prioritise the well-being of children, incorporating child-inclusive practices where appropriate. This approach ensures that decisions are made in the best interests of the child, helping to maintain parental relationships post-separation.

Confidential and Less Adversarial

Mediation with accredited professionals provides a confidential, non-confrontational environment that supports constructive dialogue. This framework helps preserve relationships, which is particularly important when children are involved.

Conclusion

Opting for an accredited family mediator ensures expert guidance, higher success rates, and a commitment to professional standards. As of March 2024 there were only 682 accredited mediators meeting these rigorous criteria, their expertise represents a trusted pathway to resolving disputes with dignity and efficiency.

Why Mediation Matters Now More Than Ever: Navigating the Family Court Crunch

In a letter to all users of the Financial Remedies Court London,  Sir Andrew McFarlane, President of the Family Division has cast a spotlight on the looming pressures within the Family Court system. In 2025/2026 there was an expectation that 45% of sitting days are dedicated to public law cases, with only 13% allocated to financial remedies in London—up slightly from the national 9% but still a stark limitation.  However, the letter goes on to state that it has become clear that the number of sitting days will in fact exceed 13% which will mean a number of hearings could be cancelled at very short notice. The resulting unpredictability makes it increasingly more difficult for family lawyers to offer any certainty to their clients in terms of timing and costs.  There is an urgent need for families to consider alternative dispute resolution methods, with mediation emerging as a critical solution.

1. Beat the Court Backlog: A Numbers Game

With financial remedy cases restricted to just 13% of court sitting days, the likelihood of delays is inevitable. Mediation offers an immediate advantage here:

  • Zero waiting lists compared to court delays stretching from October 2025 to March 2026.
  • Cases can be resolved in weeks, not months or even years; sidestepping the bottleneck created by restricted court schedules.

2. Cutting Costs Amidst Court Constraints

Court proceedings aren’t just time-consuming—they’re expensive. As hearings are cancelled or rescheduled, legal fees accumulate often as a result of wasted costs being incurred as a result of legal teams preparing cases, which get cancelled at the last minute.  Mediation, on the other hand:

  • Reduces legal costs by up to 60% compared to traditional litigation.
  • Requires fewer professional hours, which translates directly into financial savings.

3. More Control, Less Courtroom Drama

The rigid structure of court timetables and judicial decisions can leave families feeling powerless. Mediation flips the script:

  • Parties determine schedules, terms, and outcomes—not the court.
  • Flexible sessions accommodate personal commitments, unlike fixed court dates prone to last-minute changes.

4. Emotional Well-being in the Face of Legal Delays

The stress of prolonged disputes can’t be understated, particularly when court dates are uncertain. Mediation provides:

  • A calmer, collaborative environment, reducing anxiety linked to adversarial courtrooms.
  • Faster resolutions, minimising the emotional toll of drawn-out legal battles.

5. Confidentiality Amidst Public Proceedings

With court cases becoming part of the public record, privacy concerns are paramount. Mediation ensures:

  • Complete confidentiality, allowing sensitive matters to remain private.
  • Freedom to discuss issues openly without fear of public exposure.

Why Now? The Statistics Speak Volumes

Sir Andrew McFarlane’s letter doesn’t just outline administrative changes—it signals a systemic shift. The allocation of 45% to public law, 37% to private law, and a mere 13% for financial remedies in London means families will face unprecedented delays if they rely solely on the courts.

The Takeaway:

Mediation isn’t just an alternative—it’s becoming the necessity for families seeking timely, cost-effective resolutions. As court resources tighten and sitting days dwindle, mediation offers a clear path forward, empowering families to regain control over their disputes without getting lost in the backlog.