Prenups for Couples: One Lawyer, Clear Choices, Peace of Mind

January is often seen as the busiest month for family lawyers, as time spent together over the holidays leads some couples to conclude their marriage has run its course. Yet Christmas and New Year are just as often a time of romance, with many couples choosing this moment to commit to marriage.

There has been a clear cultural shift over recent decades with couple marrying in their 30’s being the most common age to wed.  At this age it is now much more likely that both parties will have built up wealth prior to marriage.  As such, nuptial agreements are no longer the preserve of celebrities or the very wealthy. Increasingly, couples across England and Wales are choosing to make clear, proactive decisions about their financial futures, before or after marriage, through professionally drafted nuptial agreements. At the same time, innovative processes like One Couple. One Lawyer are transforming how those agreements are negotiated — making them sensible, respectful, and collaborative rather than adversarial.

What is a Nuptial Agreement in English Law?

nuptial agreement (whether entered into before marriage — a “pre-nup” — or during marriage — a “post-nup”) is a written contract that sets out how a couple intends their financial assets and responsibilities to be dealt with if the relationship later breaks down.

Under English law:

  • Nuptial agreements are not automatically legally binding in the same way as other contracts.
  • But since the Supreme Court’s landmark Radmacher v Granatino decision, courts will give effect to a nuptial agreement when certain conditions are met — voluntarily entered into, with full disclosure and fair terms — unless it would be unfair to uphold it at the time of divorce.

The practical outcome is that a well-negotiated and properly documented agreement will carry significant weight in court and often becomes the framework the court adopts when approving a financial settlement on divorce.

Why Couples Choose Nuptial Agreements

People enter into nuptial agreements for many reasons, including:

  • Protecting assets brought into the marriage (e.g., family property, business interests).
  • Ensuring inheritance provision for children from prior relationships.
  • Clarifying rights and responsibilities early, helping minimises emotional and financial stress if the relationship later ends.
  • Encouraging candid financial discussions, which can strengthen mutual understanding and trust.

Key Legal Safeguards that Make Them Work

For a nuptial agreement to carry weight in court, it should satisfy core safeguards:

  1. Free and informed consent: Both parties enter into the agreement voluntarily, with time to consider the terms.
  2. Full financial disclosure: Each person must know the full picture — assets, liabilities and future prospects.
  3. Fairness and reasonableness: The agreement must not leave one party unable to meet their reasonable needs.
  4. Independent advice: Both parties should have the opportunity to take independent legal advice (even where a joint process is used).

The Problem with Traditional Positional Negotiation

Under the traditional model, each person instructs their own solicitor from the outset. Even where a couple is broadly aligned, the structure itself creates separation:

  • advice is given individually and privately;
  • proposals are exchanged through letters or emails;
  • language can become defensive and strategic;
  • costs increase with every round of correspondence.

This approach can be appropriate where there is mistrust, imbalance or conflict. Although the pertinent question in these scenarios is whether marriage is an appropriate step.  But for couples who are fundamentally seeking agreement, it often creates friction where none previously existed.

Positional negotiations can:

  • harden attitudes unnecessarily;
  • delay agreement;
  • inflate legal costs disproportionately to complexity; and
  • undermine the collaborative intent behind the agreement.

What One Couple. One Lawyer Does Differently

One Couple. One Lawyer starts from a different premise:
that many couples want clarity, not confrontation.

Traditionally, each person instructs their own solicitor to negotiate a nuptial agreement. One Couple. One Lawyer takes a different approach: one accredited family lawyer works with both partners together to guide the process — explaining the law, facilitating discussions, and drafting terms that reflect both parties’ intentions.

This model works when:

  • both partners are willing to engage openly and respectfully;
  • there is a commitment to full financial disclosure together; and
  • neither party is under coercion or significant imbalance of power.

Why This Works Especially Well for Nuptial Agreements

Nuptial agreements are not about winning or losing. They are about:

  • managing risk;
  • protecting pre-existing assets or family wealth;
  • planning for future change; and
  • avoiding uncertainty if a relationship later ends.

One Couple. One Lawyer is particularly well suited to this because it:

  • keeps discussions forward-looking rather than retrospective;
  • allows both partners to hear the same advice at the same time;
  • reduces misunderstandings about what the law does — and does not — allow;
  • encourages practical, proportionate decision-making.

Importantly, it also creates a clear evidential trail that the agreement was entered into knowingly, voluntarily and with proper understanding — all factors that increase the likelihood of it being upheld.

But What About Separate Legal Advice?

Separate advice remains essential.  The key difference is when and how that advice is taken.

Under One Couple. One Lawyer:

  • joint work is done first, efficiently and transparently;
  • the structure and rationale of the agreement are clear;
  • The agreement is drafted together to ensure the terms work for both parties equally.

Instead of two lawyers negotiating from scratch, each adviser is reviewing a near-final document/ set of proposals and advising on its implications.

This dramatically reduces:

  • duplication of work;
  • unnecessary correspondence; and
  • the scope for positional escalation.

Why This Is Still Much Cheaper Overall

Clients are often surprised to learn that even with separate advice, One Couple. One Lawyer usually costs significantly less than the traditional method.

That is because:

  • there is only one lawyer doing the core drafting and legal analysis;
  • meetings are joint rather than duplicated;
  • negotiations happen in real time, not by letter;
  • disputes are addressed early, not allowed to fester.

Traditional positional negotiation often generates cost through process rather than substance. One Couple. One Lawyer strips that away.

The result is not “cheap law” — it is proportionate law.

The Bottom Line

A well-drafted nuptial agreement is one that is:

  • understood by both parties;
  • entered into freely;
  • fair in outcome; and
  • proportionate in cost.

For the right couples, One Couple. One Lawyer delivers exactly that — with the option of separate advice where needed, and without the financial and emotional drain of traditional positional methods.

Please contact Rachel Jaysan at rachel@rachel.jaysan.co.uk or 020 8958 2073 or book an initial exploratory chat using the following link to discuss your options

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Living Apart Together: Why More Couples Are Choosing Their Own Space

There’s a growing trend in modern relationships that might surprise you—or might sound wonderfully sensible: Living Apart Together, or LAT for short. It’s exactly what it sounds like. Couples who are very much committed, very much in love… but choose to live in separate homes.

And no, it doesn’t mean they’re “less serious.” In fact, for many people it’s the perfect way to keep a relationship happy, balanced, and drama-free.

So why are more couples choosing LAT?

  1. When kids are already in the picture

Many people find love again later in life. And by then, the children involved—sometimes teenagers, sometimes adults—have their own routines, needs, and spaces. Moving everyone under one roof can feel overwhelming or even destabilising.

LAT lets couples build a strong relationship without asking their children to suddenly blend homes or share space with new step-siblings. Everyone gets to keep the stability they’re used to.

  1. You’ve got your home, they’ve got theirs

By the time people reach a certain age, they’ve often created a home they truly love—and may have worked very hard to buy. Giving that up isn’t always appealing, and it doesn’t have to be.

Living apart means you don’t have to choose whose place to keep, or feel pressured to sell or move. You get to maintain your independence and the home that suits your lifestyle, while still having the relationship you want.

  1. No arguments about bins, dishes, or towels on the floor

Let’s be honest: most relationship tension isn’t about big philosophical differences. It’s about the dishes. Or laundry. Or who forgot to empty the bins again.

When each person has their own space, those tiny irritations don’t pile up. Instead, you get to enjoy the best parts of being together, without letting everyday chores drain the magic out of the relationship.

Many LAT couples say their time together feels intentional, romantic, and fresh—because it’s not overshadowed by the mundane side of cohabiting.

  1. No shared children, no pressure to share a home

Sometimes partners already know they won’t be having children together. Without the practical need to create a shared family home, there’s a lot more freedom to design a relationship that works for both people.

For many, LAT is simply the most comfortable and natural fit.

  1. Long-distance relationships—without the ultimatum

It’s increasingly common for couples to live in different cities or even different countries. Careers, family commitments, and lifestyles don’t always line up neatly.

LAT allows couples to stay committed without forcing a dramatic move that might not make sense for either person. With modern communication and easier travel, long-distance love is much more doable than it once was.

The practical (but important) bit: finances and agreements

Even when couples aren’t moving in together, it’s still smart to talk about the financial side of things. Especially when each partner already owns property or has children from previous relationships.

Many LAT couples look into:

These documents help clarify things like who owns what, how finances work, and what happens if the relationship changes. It’s not unromantic—it’s simply giving both people peace of mind so they can focus on enjoying the relationship rather than worrying about the “what ifs.”

The bottom line

Living Apart Together isn’t about distance—it’s about designing a relationship that fits your life. For many couples, it’s the perfect blend of intimacy and independence. You get the companionship, the romance, and the emotional closeness, while still maintaining your own space, routines, and stability.

For more and more people, LAT isn’t a compromise—it’s a solution.

We can help you ensure that you have the right legal protection in place to provide clarity with regards your finances.

The Benefits of Using an Accredited Family Mediator

The Benefits of Using an Accredited Family Mediator

Navigating family disputes can be emotionally draining. Engaging an accredited family mediator offers an effective alternative to prolonged legal battles, promoting constructive communication and an amicable resolution.

Expertise and Professional Standards

Accredited family mediators undergo rigorous training and assessment to meet high standards of practice. Among the 682 accredited mediators registered with recognised bodies, in the UK, all are required to adhere to strict codes of conduct, ensuring professionalism and competence.

Higher Success Rates

Statistics indicate that accredited mediators achieve higher success rates in resolving disputes. A recent review showed that agreements are reached in over 80% of cases handled by accredited mediators, This success is attributed to their advanced skills in facilitating effective communication and negotiation.

Consistency and Accountability

Accredited mediators are subject to regular continuing professional development (CPD) and supervision, maintaining up-to-date knowledge of legal frameworks and mediation techniques. Non-accredited mediators may not have similar obligations, leading to inconsistent practices. The oversight ensures accredited mediators remain accountable, offering reassurance to families seeking reliable support.

Child-Centred Focus

Accredited mediators are trained to prioritise the well-being of children, incorporating child-inclusive practices where appropriate. This approach ensures that decisions are made in the best interests of the child, helping to maintain parental relationships post-separation.

Confidential and Less Adversarial

Mediation with accredited professionals provides a confidential, non-confrontational environment that supports constructive dialogue. This framework helps preserve relationships, which is particularly important when children are involved.

Conclusion

Opting for an accredited family mediator ensures expert guidance, higher success rates, and a commitment to professional standards. As of March 2024 there were only 682 accredited mediators meeting these rigorous criteria, their expertise represents a trusted pathway to resolving disputes with dignity and efficiency.

Why Mediation Matters Now More Than Ever: Navigating the Family Court Crunch

In a letter to all users of the Financial Remedies Court London,  Sir Andrew McFarlane, President of the Family Division has cast a spotlight on the looming pressures within the Family Court system. In 2025/2026 there was an expectation that 45% of sitting days are dedicated to public law cases, with only 13% allocated to financial remedies in London—up slightly from the national 9% but still a stark limitation.  However, the letter goes on to state that it has become clear that the number of sitting days will in fact exceed 13% which will mean a number of hearings could be cancelled at very short notice. The resulting unpredictability makes it increasingly more difficult for family lawyers to offer any certainty to their clients in terms of timing and costs.  There is an urgent need for families to consider alternative dispute resolution methods, with mediation emerging as a critical solution.

1. Beat the Court Backlog: A Numbers Game

With financial remedy cases restricted to just 13% of court sitting days, the likelihood of delays is inevitable. Mediation offers an immediate advantage here:

  • Zero waiting lists compared to court delays stretching from October 2025 to March 2026.
  • Cases can be resolved in weeks, not months or even years; sidestepping the bottleneck created by restricted court schedules.

2. Cutting Costs Amidst Court Constraints

Court proceedings aren’t just time-consuming—they’re expensive. As hearings are cancelled or rescheduled, legal fees accumulate often as a result of wasted costs being incurred as a result of legal teams preparing cases, which get cancelled at the last minute.  Mediation, on the other hand:

  • Reduces legal costs by up to 60% compared to traditional litigation.
  • Requires fewer professional hours, which translates directly into financial savings.

3. More Control, Less Courtroom Drama

The rigid structure of court timetables and judicial decisions can leave families feeling powerless. Mediation flips the script:

  • Parties determine schedules, terms, and outcomes—not the court.
  • Flexible sessions accommodate personal commitments, unlike fixed court dates prone to last-minute changes.

4. Emotional Well-being in the Face of Legal Delays

The stress of prolonged disputes can’t be understated, particularly when court dates are uncertain. Mediation provides:

  • A calmer, collaborative environment, reducing anxiety linked to adversarial courtrooms.
  • Faster resolutions, minimising the emotional toll of drawn-out legal battles.

5. Confidentiality Amidst Public Proceedings

With court cases becoming part of the public record, privacy concerns are paramount. Mediation ensures:

  • Complete confidentiality, allowing sensitive matters to remain private.
  • Freedom to discuss issues openly without fear of public exposure.

Why Now? The Statistics Speak Volumes

Sir Andrew McFarlane’s letter doesn’t just outline administrative changes—it signals a systemic shift. The allocation of 45% to public law, 37% to private law, and a mere 13% for financial remedies in London means families will face unprecedented delays if they rely solely on the courts.

The Takeaway:

Mediation isn’t just an alternative—it’s becoming the necessity for families seeking timely, cost-effective resolutions. As court resources tighten and sitting days dwindle, mediation offers a clear path forward, empowering families to regain control over their disputes without getting lost in the backlog.